Variants a little. Through the friends or girlfriends. Through the colleagues familiar. Behind a little table in cafe. In each of these cases two persons unfamiliar each other, using all abilities, are exposed to mutual thorough studying. The decision should be accepted in the shortest terms, literally at once. In such situations, people frequently make acts which) are not peculiar, behave completely inadequately to an internal warehouse of character. The further development of events completely depends on the first acquaintance. Also it is not necessary to be mistaken, that any person without ceremony can "play" this first acquaintance at sight, without the script.
Let's try spread out this situation carefully to give some relationship advice. We shall begin that at the lonely woman, our heroine, "anybody is not present". That inner life has appeared familiar, the friend, the partner, it is necessary to get acquainted with him all over again. At the moment of acquaintance almost all at once becomes clear. Or "is not present", or "yes". If mutual "yes" it is possible to develop relationship and further. If someone's "is not present", prospects at such acquaintance few. There can be exceptions, but, most likely our heroine only all for nothing will spend time and nerves. Thus, it is possible to count positive result of the first meeting mutual "yes". It also should is accepted to be within literally hour - two or one evening. For this short time there is no opportunity thoroughly to understand the person, to find out who he is. Today it can be simple "not in the form". In the dry rest only "Love at first sight". And thus our heroine should risk. You think, she is ready to risk? I am not sure. What to do? How not to make a mistake. That it is hurt to not fall? The answer is not so obvious. Let's try to find some reasonable advice.
Our heroine is not ready to risk. She uncertainly keeps in unfamiliar conditions. It is difficult for her to bring up with the stranger. Our conclusion: she should not meet the stranger. In other words, to see him and to talk. The problem of the heroine - to defer the moment of a meeting, until then, when she to him will be ready, i.e. then when her man to her will be familiar and clear. Now a question: What form of mutual relation allows to find out the person before direct personal meeting with him? To me one is known only - correspondence. Until then while wishing to deny my reasons has not appeared, we shall accept for the basic version, that for our heroine the most convenient variant is correspondence. What is the correspondence? It is an opportunity to communicate with the correspondent, as though it is far it was not. Years back we should recognize ten, that opportunities of correspondence are limited to the country of residing as international mail worked long and unreliably. Now, with development of a network the Internet in each city, borders simply have failed. To the same extent there were accessible any correspondents from any countries. What correspondence on the Internet for our heroine gives? Two advantages. First, the necessary time reserve when nobody hurries with decision making is created. Quietly it is possible to think, ask, receive answers to tell much about itself and to learn much about the correspondent. Second, correspondents in correspondence can be a little, and anybody from them never learns about "competitor" if itself to not blab out. The international correspondents are removed, but it and is good, as there is an opportunity all over again to learn each other, and only then to get acquainted. They are removed not only from our heroine, but also from each other and anybody casually will not prevent a meeting as could be if all lived in one city. Whether correspondence takes away something from our heroine? No. Correspondence only increases her opportunities as all previous variants are kept in force.