Friends of husband sometimes become enemies of a wife. Both conflicting parties are jealous. Being the wife, you require all the time and attention of the spouse. Friends do too. After the divorce with his first wife they have already got used to his barchelor status. When he gets married again, friends still wish, that he takes part in parties for guys, a sit-round parties with a glass of wine, campaigns in a bath and goes to football and hockey games, fishing and hunting and takes part in other man's entertainments.
As his status has changed (was divorced, now he is married again) his absence at only men's entertainments they connect with you and transfer the discontent to you. Although perhaps your spouse is simply already tired of careless life and wants quiet life with his family.
So the relationship advice in this case is your tactics should be different. The advice is that in this case you ignore malicious words of his relatives, but you should not follow this advice in your relationship with his friends. You will have to win their approval. Here again you will need an advice on men psychology. So, your relationships with your husband will be much better and easier if you are in good relationship with his friends and relatives.
Men like witty women. And at the same time they hate sensitive women.