Match-makers knew after whom what dowry she is given, they had a list of dowry, which in the noble and rich merchant families was comprised immediately during the generation of daughter, knew which appearance and disposition, and also the concealed/latent deficiencies in the fiances and brides. Matchmakers were not lazy in order to learn all this, to resemble according to the neighbors of future newlyweds, to be pushed in the benches, where their relatives were buyers. During the day assigned, in the accurately indicated time, future fiance will bring visit on the parents of his elect. On this case it should be put on suit and had two bouquets of the colors, one of which it presents to the mother of its bride, and the second - to its future wife. On the Russian custom, the proposal is made, being turned to the parents of its elect. Fiance tells in them about his feelings to their daughter and "he requests her hand". To parents it will be pleasant to also hear several words about how it will to it relate, when she becomes his wife.
If parents assume request, then the father of future bride packs the right hand of daughter into the hand of his future sons-in-law convenient to time the first encounter with the future relatives to the holiday, the family celebration. Troubles around the table create natural situation for the unconstrained intercourse. The mutual acquaintance of families occurs. Visit must not be prolonged. If the parents of fiance were not participants in the matchmaking, future newly-weds they attend their, future fiance introduces to parents elect, but she gives the flowers of future mother-in-law. After matchmaking future newly-weds negotiate about the declaration of engagement and is determined its date. If future newly-weds live far from their relatives and there is no possibility to take a trip to them or to invite them to themselves, then should be sent to the parents of the photograph of their elect, described him, asked council and permissions/resolutions to the reject in father and mother. If matchmaking was passed successfully, and both sides were satisfied, then the week after match-making they were assigned bride-shows. Bride-shows were passed to the house of bride, less frequent during the walking or in the theater. They went fiance with the parents and the match-maker to the bride by round about way, on the custom tangling the matter. Bride-shows we could be pulled not one week. In the families was arranged dinner. Usual ritual with the bride-shows in all classes was the joint public prayer of two families and their bypass around the table. Bride-shows and engagement they were combined for the dowerless girls